Saturday, May 19, 2012
A link to my article on childhood abuse and the non-offending parent
http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/nonoffending-parent-childhood-abuse-0515124/
Thursday, May 10, 2012
Confusion & the non-offending parent
It has been a while since I have posted...Sorry!
The theme in my office lately seems to be in trying to wrap our heads around childhood trauma within the family system and how a parent who, while is not abusive, also does not protect or intervene. I find myself aligned with my clients in the confusion around this component of the work. I too, feel perplexed by the failure to protect and don't know exactly how to categorize this. As I consider it further, I wonder if the question lies in the answer-meaning this is indeed a complicated aspect of recovery. How do we think about and recover from the fact that there was someone who could have rescued a child, especially when that person who may have been loving on occasion, but didn't intervene? How do we juxtapose a loving parent who didn't protect or stop something awful from happening? Are they abusers or are they victims, or something in between? I don't have an answer but feel it important to acknowledge the layers of recovery-to think about how we understand what happened and to derive some sort of meaning from it. These are my thoughts today...
The theme in my office lately seems to be in trying to wrap our heads around childhood trauma within the family system and how a parent who, while is not abusive, also does not protect or intervene. I find myself aligned with my clients in the confusion around this component of the work. I too, feel perplexed by the failure to protect and don't know exactly how to categorize this. As I consider it further, I wonder if the question lies in the answer-meaning this is indeed a complicated aspect of recovery. How do we think about and recover from the fact that there was someone who could have rescued a child, especially when that person who may have been loving on occasion, but didn't intervene? How do we juxtapose a loving parent who didn't protect or stop something awful from happening? Are they abusers or are they victims, or something in between? I don't have an answer but feel it important to acknowledge the layers of recovery-to think about how we understand what happened and to derive some sort of meaning from it. These are my thoughts today...
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